For family caregivers
Practical help for the chair you didn’t plan to be sitting in.
You’re juggling a job, your own family, and a parent who is changing in ways nobody really prepared you for. This is a place for the logistical questions you end up Googling at 11pm — the medical, legal, and financial stuff — plus an honest read on the parts that hurt.
We’re skeptical of sentimentality and allergic to platitudes. We try to write like someone who has been in the chair, because we have.
Start here
Two pieces we wrote first, because they’re the questions we hear most often.
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Legal & financial
Medical power of attorney vs. guardianship: when you need which one
POA is a piece of paper your parent signs while they still can. Guardianship is a court order you pursue when they can’t. The choice often comes down to timing, cost, and how much fight you have left.
16 min read
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Caregiver mental health
The guilt of putting a parent in care: what therapists say, and what actually helps
Guilt isn’t a sign you made the wrong choice. It’s usually a sign you love someone and the situation is hard. Here’s what helps — and what therapists say to stop doing.
15 min read
What we cover
Four areas, because that’s where most of the questions land.
- Navigating healthcare
- Hospital discharges, specialists, medication lists, and the meeting where someone uses the word "hospice." How to ask better questions, and what to write down.
- Caregiver mental health
- Burnout, guilt, anticipatory grief, and the resentment nobody warns you about. What therapists actually recommend — and what to skip.
- Legal & financial
- Power of attorney, guardianship, Medicaid, long-term care costs, and elder-law planning before a crisis forces your hand.
- Respite & support
- Where the help actually is: home-care aides, adult day programs, support groups, and the Area Agency on Aging — plus how to pay for any of it.
A note on what this site isn’t
We don’t sell anything. We don’t collect your story to sell you services. We’re also not your doctor, lawyer, or financial advisor — please use this as a starting point for your own questions, not a substitute for them.